Over the past twenty years of pastoral ministry I have observed that the greatest amount of relational degradation has come at the hands of those who are consumed with a victim mindset. What is a victim mindset? According to Dr. Judith Orloff, who is the Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and author of the book “Emotional Freedom”, a victim mindset is “A poor-me attitude, and is allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. People are always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. They portray themselves as unfortunates who demand rescuing, and they will make you into their therapist. As a friend, you want to help, but you become overwhelmed by their endless tales of woe: A boyfriend stormed out…again; a mother doesn’t understand; a diva-boss was ungrateful. When you suggest how to put an end to the pity party, they’ll say, “Yes…but,” then launch into more unsolvable gripes. These vampires may be so clingy they stick to you like flypaper.” King Saul of Israel allowed this victim mindset to drive his violent tirade against one of his most trusted advisors. He believed David was against him regardless of clear evidence to the contrary as a result years and decades were wasted chasing phantom enemies all the while leaving behind broken relationships, destroyed lives, and chaos (I Samuel 9-31). History is riddled with examples of men and women who used their victim mindset to wreak havoc on their contemporaries.
Today we are witnessing an explosion of diverse groups driven by a victim mindset. Everyone of them clamoring for recognition and claiming they are being unfairly marginalized. The spike in violence within American cities and upsurge of brutality worldwide gives credence to the idea that we are living in an era dominated by a victim mindset. If this hypothesis is even half-true, then we can be sure that the immediate future appears grim. Matthew 24:12 states, “Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of many will grow cold.” I believe this scripture can also be understood this way, “Because of the increase of the ‘victim mindset’, the hatred of many will grow”.
The devil is gleefully riding the backs of the individual, group, business, nation, and religion built on the victim mindset. He is using these unsuspecting idiots to wreak havoc all over the world. Hitler decried the success of the Jews and was able to mobilize a whole nation to murder six to ten million other human beings. I cannot even fathom the amount of violence that awaits our future as Satan exploits the broken.
Jesus says in Matthew 11:28-29, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. The devil wants to exploit your pain, God wants to restore your purpose. Say goodbye to the devil and begin to lay your burden at the feet of Jesus. He Loves you and wants to make you His own.